"How to win friends and influence people" summed up... in a bucket. This beautiful children's book explains in amazing clarity the concept of building others up rather than tearing them down - about the motivations behind "bucket dippers" who are actually only trying to "fill their own bucket" by tearing down others... and how that doesn't work. It explains the the children how when you "fill another's bucket" you fill your own as well - about how making others feel good ends up making you feel good. This simplistic view of state management is amazingly effective and providing useful tools of communication for children. When a child is grumpy, you can say "do you have an empty bucket?" and they will think "hmm... whose bucket could I fill up to improve my mood...?" Self soothing is one of the key ingredients to a successful life.  To learn that helping others is a key factor in helping yourself?  Ditto